In her award-winning short film, My Nose, filmmaker Gayle Kirschenbaum focuses on her mom’s quest to get her to have a nose job. Barely touching the surface of their highly complex and charged relationship, Kirschenbaum knew it needed deeper exploration. The poignant journey is told in her new upcoming film, LOOK AT US NOW, MOTHER!…
by Martha Beck, O, The Oprah Magazine Self-esteem is terrific. Self-esteem run hysterically riot is not. Martha Beck shows you how to deal with the Me! Me! Me! person in your life. (The ego you save may be your own.) Esteem is a warm, accepting quality, and directing it toward oneself is a fine thing.…
By Judith Woods, Daily Mail, UK A mum is supposed to want the very best for her daughter, but what happens if the daughter’s youth, vitality and success make her feel jealous? Judith Woods looks into the devastating effects of maternal envy. When Andrea was growing up she was aware that her mother treated her…
by Beth Seidler Rehman Mommyish.com My daughter’s looks were a hot topic of conversation from the moment of her birth. Who did she look like? The family debated this endlessly. They never reached consensus. My mother-in-law insisted that, as a newborn, my daughter looked just like my husband did. On the other hand, my mother claimed that my daughter was…
By Lisa Belkin, The New York Times, Motherlode – Adventures in Parenting Over on Slate yesterday, a reader wrote to the Dear Prudence column, looking for advice. She asked, in part: I am the mother of a tall, shapely, stunning, 17-year-old daughter … I have worked to help her be strong, secure, and happy with…
One woman’s mom resents her success. Dr. Gail Saltz advises. By Dr. Gail Saltz TODAY Q. I believe my mother is jealous of me. My life is better than hers (relationships, material goods, job, friends, etc.) and I really think she resents me for it. She gets nasty when I reach a goal, make a…
By Barbara Wilkov February 2011 I had a very interesting conversation the other day about narcissism with a good friend of mine. I never really even thought about narcissism before launching this website (I certainly never knew how to spell it before Motherrr.com was born!), but it’s actually become one of the most searched for…
By Carlin Flora, Psychology Today How to get over your narcissistic mom. We tend to throw around the descriptor “narcissist” when we really mean “selfish,” but the term can properly refer to someone who consistently exhibits narcissistic traits as well as to someone with a full-blown Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The APA estimates that 1.5 million…
By Charlotte Phillips, The Times The author looks at the corrosive effect of a mother’s jealousy of her own daughter. Meg has two daughters, a loving, supportive husband and the sort of house that estate agents fantasize about. She has worked hard for her success, only recently taking a break from her high-powered job in…