Jealousy

A difficult issue…

Dealing with a mother who is jealous of her daughter can be challenging.

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Women and Rivalry Part 1

Since the topic of jealousy is such a highly visited section of Motherrr.com, we thought we would include this very interesting excerpt from the book, Tripping the Prom Queen: The Truth About Women and Rivalry by Susan Shapiro Barash.  While its focus is primarily on how women (friends, co-workers, siblings, etc.) relate to one another, it also touches on the mother-daughter relationship and shows that jealousy between women (no matter who they are) isn’t as out of the ordinary as one might think.  Be sure to also check out other articles on this website that address jealousy between mothers and daughters more specifically.

Excerpt from “Tripping the Prom Queen:  The Truth About Women and Rivalry”
ABC News, Good Morning America

Susan Shapiro Barash Looks at How Women Relate to Each Other

Susan Shapiro Barash is a professor of gender studies at Marymount Manhattan College and became fascinated by women’s relationship with each other.  Can sisters, mothers and best friends be jealous and supportive at the same time?  In fact she found that rivalry and envy often pervades female relationships.  The women’s liberation movement created more options for women, but it also seems to have created more competition, Barash said.

Introduction

Facing the Dark Mirror
All my life, I’ve relied upon the kindness of women.

I had a terrific relationship with my mother, who supported my earliest efforts to explore the world and discover a sense of myself.  I had wonderful girlfriends, pals who were good for everything from a carefree shopping trip downtown to long, serious discussions aboutcontinue reading

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