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You can’t divorce your mom (well, you can, but do you want to?)…

When things get difficult with your mother-daughter relationship, you have only a few options. You can choose estrangement from your mother if you can live with that. If not, then the only other choice is to stay in the relationship and find ways to either change it or deal with it differently. Even if your mother can’t or won’t change, you can learn to make some adjustments to your attitude and reactions. That’s where the strategies and resources in this section come in.

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My Mother and Me

By Mary Friedel-Hunt "She died when I was just 13 years old. She missed my graduations from high school and college, my wedding and the birth of...

Love Her or Hate Her - She's Still Your Mom

ABC News - 20/20 It can be the best of relationships and the worst of relationships -- often at the same time. The bond between a mother and daughter...

When You're Your Mother's Keeper

by Michael Winerip (New York Times - August 21, 2009) WHEN Suzanne Cooper’s elderly mother moved in three years ago, her Alzheimer’s was in an ear...
Being your ‘Mother’s Daughter’

Being your ‘Mother’s Daughter’

TODAY For many adult daughters. the relationship with their mothers can be very special, but it can also be difficult at times. In her latest book, I...

Did you know?

The Family Leave Act allows anyone to take time off from work in case of a family crisis, including care of an elderly parent, and still retain one's...
Afraid to Rage: The Origins of Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Afraid to Rage: The Origins of Passive-Aggressive Behavior

by Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D. in Evolution of the Self Psychology Today At one pole of communication stands passivity: not speaking out for fear of...
Living with Mother Again? Creating Harmony

Living with Mother Again? Creating Harmony

Adapted from the book Under One Roof Again: All Grown Up and (Re)learning to Live Together Happily by Susan Newman, Ph.D. When you return to live...
The Grandmother Thing

The Grandmother Thing

By Janet from Michigan Okay. I admit it.  I feel guilty.  I suppose that happens as soon as you become a mother.  But I feel guilty becausemy mother is...
Gaining a Little Perspective

Gaining a Little Perspective

The primary focus of this website is on the adult daughter's perspective of the mother-daughter relationship, but there is certainly a lot of overlap...every...

Ask Amy

The Washington Post DEAR AMY: I hope you can help me. My mother and I have a generally warm and close relationship and I consider her one of my best...
Mother, Damned-est

Mother, Damned-est

By Terri Apter, PsychologyToday.com Most people think their mom was difficult, but some mothers put their children in a bind that actually warps...

Ask Amy

The Washington Post Dear Amy: I am a busy stay-at-home mom to two young children. My mother seems to think that I have nothing to do because...
How to Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

How to Stop Being So Hard On Yourself

AgingCare.com Everyone has one: An inner critic. Your thoughts. That little voice in your head that is very opinionated, telling you how to act, ...

Connie Podesta: The Two Most Manipulative Emotions (Video)

When you get to work in the morning, is it where you want to be? And when you go home at night, is that where you feel good and safe? Being able to answer...
Stop Feeling Defensive Using A Powerful Principle Called Reflection

Stop Feeling Defensive Using A Powerful Principle Called Reflection

By Lynn Marie Sager "We were given two ears but only one mouth, because listening is twice as hard as talking." I often ask my clients to listen...

Why People Get Defensive and 3 Tips for Breaking the Habit

By Mark Tyrell, UncommonHelp.me Tip 1:  Don't feel you have to defend everything Only a fool (or a politician) thinks that everyone else must ...
Adult Daughters and Their Mothers - A Tenuous Bond

Adult Daughters and Their Mothers - A Tenuous Bond

By Shonnie Brown For many adult daughters, the mother-daughter bond is a tenuous balance of both positive and negative feelings, connection and autonomy.  ...

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