Learn how changes in behavior can help repair a broken relationship between mother and daughter.
Article by Family Education
Building Blocks
A belief system is composed of fundamental ideas that affect how an individual looks at and evaluates a set of circumstances, experiences, or individuals. Indeed it colors the overall way in which one looks at and approaches the world around them.
If your old way of thinking hasn’t produced the most harmonious, loving feelings between mother and daughter that you can each summons, it is time to toss out that old belief system full of misconceptions,misunderstandings, and leftover ill feelings, and come up with a new one. However, the new belief system must be founded on pertinent, reliable facts that will affect positive change in yourmother-daughter relationship. Here are 10 worthy points that should formulate for you a sound basis for a new and improvedbelief system:
- Any emotional stress caused by your mother-daughter relationship to either party, no matter how slight, is worth fixing!
- An older mother who is tired of mothering has the right to retire, but not withdraw, from the job.
- There is a difference between trying to understand a mother or daughter’s behavior and trying to sanction it.
- Confrontation does not have to be combative. It’s all in the way you handle it.
- It can be beneficial to discuss the issues that drive a wedge between mothers and daughters.
- In a healthy mother-daughter relationship, each adult takes responsibility for her own actions and for the relationship. There is no passing the buck.
- Mothers and daughters cannot solve each other’s problems. They can support, guide, and assist. However, each party owns her own problems.
- Intimacy is achieved through self-disclosure, love, and mutual dependency; it is not determined by dependency.
- Not all mothers or daughters have the capacity to change. In this instance, someone is going to have to do more than her share of accepting.
- Mothers and daughters are human beings who are fallible and make mistakes.
